A professional dom is someone who is paid to engage in BDSM activities with a client. This can be done in a variety of settings, such as a dungeon, private residence, or hotel room. To become a professional dom, one must first have an understanding of BDSM and be competent in performing various activities, such as bondage, spanking, and role-playing. In addition, it is important to be able to read and interpret a client’s body language and verbal cues in order to ensure that the experience is safe and enjoyable for both parties.
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What is a professional Dom, what qualities are required
Becoming a professional Dom can be an extremely rewarding and exciting way to make a living. However, it is not a job for everyone. In order to be a successful professional Dom, one must have certain qualities, such as being confident, assertive, and having excellent people skills.
One of the most important qualities required to be a professional Dom is confidence. A professional Dom must be able to exude confidence in order to gain the trust of their clients. They must also be able to confidently take charge in every situation.
Another important quality required to be a professional Dom is assertiveness. A professional Dom must know what they want and go after it with confidence. They should also be able to handle any difficult situations that may arise during sessions with clients.
Lastly, having excellent people skills is crucial for any professional Dom.
Step 1: develop your Dominant persona
When developing your Dominant persona, there are a few key things to keep in mind. First, remember that your Dominant persona is an extension of your true self – so be sure to choose a role that you feel comfortable with and can easily inhabit. Secondly, your Dominant persona should be someone who is confident, in control, and able to take charge when needed. Lastly, keep in mind that your Dominant persona is there to serve the needs of your submissive – so be sure to focus on what will make them happy and fulfilled.
With these things in mind, here are a few tips for developing your Dominant persona:
- Choose a role that feels natural to you. If you’re not comfortable with the idea of being someone’s dominant, then it’s likely that you won’t be very good at it.
- Find a role model. It’s never a bad idea to look for someone who you admire, and then try to emulate their style.
- Be firm, but not harsh. There is a big difference between being firm, and being harsh.
Step 2: understand your limits and those of your submissive
As a professional Dom, it is important to understand your limits and those of your submissive. This will help you to create a safe and consensual environment for both of you to enjoy.
There are three main areas to consider when thinking about your limits: physical, mental and emotional. It is important to know what you are comfortable with and what your submissive is comfortable with before you begin any scene.
Physical limits include anything that could potentially cause harm to either party. This could be anything from choking to spanking. It is important to discuss these things with your submissive before trying them out.
Mental limits are often more difficult to identify than physical ones. These can include anything from triggers (such as certain words or phrases) to situations that may be too intense for either party to handle.
Step 3: learn about the different types of play
There are three different types of play in BDSM- Sadism, Masochism, and Dominance/Submission.
Sadism is defined as deriving pleasure from inflicting pain on others, while masochism is deriving pleasure from receiving pain. Dominance and submission is a power dynamic where one person is in control and the other person follows their lead.
Knowing which type of play you enjoy is essential to finding the right partner and becoming a professional dom. If you enjoy giving pain, then you will want to find a submissive who enjoys receiving it. If you like being in control, then you will want to find a partner who likes to follow orders. Experimenting with different types of play is also important to figure out what gets you off.
Step 4: get the proper equipment
If you’re serious about becoming a professional dom, the next step is to get the proper equipment. This includes things like whips, chains, gags, and anything else you might need to make your sessions enjoyable for both you and your client. While you can find some of this stuff at your local sex shop, it’s often better to buy it online from a reputable source. That way, you know that you’re getting quality products that will last.
Another important piece of equipment is a good camera. This is essential for making videos or taking pictures of your sessions (with your clients’ permission, of course). A tripod is also helpful for getting clear shots. And if you plan on doing any bondage play, make sure you have some sturdy rope and cuffs.
Finally, don’t forget to stock up on lube and condoms!
Step 5: find willing participants
When it comes to finding willing participants, the best place to start is by asking your friends and family members if they would be interested in trying out your new skills. If you don’t have any luck there, try posting a message on social media or online forums related to your interests. You may also want to consider attending events or meetups related to BDSM and kink in order to find potential partners. Once you’ve found someone who is interested, it’s important to have a discussion about your expectations, boundaries, and safe words before getting started.